Saturday’s Special

HAVING EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS? TROUBLED WITH YOUR HEART? UNDERSTAND THIS

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Has it caused you so many pains? Assuming your emotions are buildings can I used demolished? Would there ever be an end to all of them? Take a look at this; Emotions adjust not only our mental, but also our bodily states. This way they prepare us to react swiftly to the dangers, but also to the opportunities such as pleasurable social interactions present in the environment. Awareness of the corresponding bodily changes may subsequently trigger the conscious emotional sensations, such as the feeling of happiness, tells assistant professor Lauri Nummenmaa from Aalto University.
1. IS IT SADNESS?
The one thing that makes us sad is the continual remembrance of the things that happened to us for which reasons pains are evoked. Sadness comes from different sources. Some take it to be normal as others don’t. More often than not, it has a trail from somewhere. It is why the first step to take is to identify what really makes you sad. Remember doing this tends to bring resolutions hypothetically. Identifying the problem is a major step. The best you can do to yourself is to feel relax and take the problems one after another then. It gives you hope and tells you that there is a possible solution. Make a list of the things that makes you sad. Arrange them in order of increasing sadness. Ask yourself what are the possible solutions that can be adopted? Select after that, the best solution but make sure you have different alternatives though. This is to ensure that whiles some may not work out probably, the other may as well. To be straighter, always identify how the sadness comes about. How it grows and finally ‘overpowers’ you. Assuming you get sad anytime you are been reprimanded, getting worst when you are told it is a disgrace for you to behave as such, it is very simple to sort out. Hopefully you have identified the problems and arranging them in order of getting sad, reprimanding comes first before been hurled insults at. Taking the bull by the horn, you first have to stop doing things that would call for caution so as not be reprimanded. Better still you can also ask forgiveness anytime you think or are told you have done something wrong. In this case, you are sure that if the abstinence won’t work, forgiveness would do probably. Before you would be through with this, the sadness phenomenon would be off. Try it. It works.

2. ARE YOU FEELING LONELY OR LEFT ALONE?
It is always important to note that in any case, the felling of loneliness can be something just for a moment or a longer time. It emanates from different spheres. It ranges from broken hearted to family issues when no one is there to care about you. What you need to note is that the feeling of loneliness can be of higher gravity or a lower one. The unfortunate thing is that sometimes, it may change our reactions towards the environment and the people we live in. In dealing with this issue, you have to note down the very substances in it that makes you feel lonely. Understand me right here. Since it is Saturday, it’s love we are focusing on, thus, dating and relationships. Maybe your lover girl has left you. Having tried all possible means to bring her back failed, you are now left feeling lonely. It is very simple to sort this out. Little by little, tend to occupy yourself with something to keep going. It is when that in no instance you don’t occupy your mind with anything that would tend to bring back those memories you had. More or less, when you keep yourself busy with the things you do, it definitely would not give you any space for you to think about it. The loneliness does not come as a result of anything but the instances you assume yourself with doing certain things with her. For instance when often you go to bath together, on the day you will go alone, it will definitely remind you off those moments. It will send you thinking about those moments and land you into lonely moods. Maybe in times that she does some cooking for you, when you feel hungry and would have to eat, the issue of loneliness would come into being. Thus, the feeling of loneliness becomes intense. It is essential for you to keep yourself with something always so as not to remember yourself those days you have been together. It all starts from the head. You have to change your conception such that things that you were doing with her could be done now as you are alone. Tell yourself you can do it alone and as such so shall it be. The one thing about life is that conceptions so much matters in different perspectives. Clear your mind of anything that can serve as a stumbling block in your actions. Believe that you can surely do anything without her. I know it is hard to let go some moments but the best you can is to stay calm and pretend nothing has happened. In times of sad moments like death or missing someone, there are something’s that will surely remind you of her.

3. MAYBE DEJECTED?
This is often seen when we are disappointed or when refused a proposal. It often comes our way and sometimes we have little to do about it or them. Just relax in as much as you have some rest. After such instances, get some sleep or engage yourself in some entertainments. This is to release some stress and calm you in one way or the other. The idea of depression can be dealt with in five seconds.
a. Pretend nothing has happened
b. Concentrate on the way forward
c. Have some rest or sleep
d. Don’t feel sorry for yourself
e. Get yourself up and device the way forward

4. UNCARED FOR?
This is when you are left to fate and ask to decide upon what you want. Maybe the family or where you reside may leave you to your fate. They are times where you have to stand up and be firm on what you do or have the passion for. It is all about your intuitive sense and responsibilities. It is good when you are met with things like this. It does not only teach you the other aspect of life but that there is a hope out there when you able to stand up firm in all angles. It is where you have to show the manliness in you. Whenever the things around you in any way leave you lonely to reason softly, take it up as an opportunity and don’t play with such. Reason through all instances and tell yourself that you alone live on this planet earth and have the taste and feel of it.

Wants more of such like this; just relax for surely its every Saturday Special on my blog. I will bring you dating tips and what needs doing in relationships. Get ready for anything sentimental, emotions and you inner being as a whole. It is this and every Saturday.
-Lin Collins

7 MYTERIES ABOUT LOVE

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Have you ever being in love? What and what drew you together? I have sat down to reason about this particular natural phenomenon and have since found no answers to them. But tell me anyway, what is love? For this one, I would answer myself and maybe you would tell me the 7 mysteries about it then. Love is the understanding held between two or more people over a particular period of time. That is love…surprised. Take a look at it again and maybe you would understand me then.

1. WHAT IS THE ACTUAL MEANING OF LOVE; IS THERE ANY AT ALL?
I have been on the web researching about love and its meaning. Great philosophers and Scientists have come out with the meaning of love and some ‘compositions’. I took a look at the different meaning and ask myself, is that really it? I looked at different situations and finally I concluded that; LOVE IS THE UNDERSTANDING HELD BETWEEN TWO OR MORE PEOPLE OVER A PARTICULAR PERIOD OF TIME. Think you me lying, then maybe you would tell me what you have on love. Let me make this one thing clear; if you can die for her or him, or maybe a group that is love. And now this guy is talking thrash. How can you die for her better still him or maybe a group? The relationship between a mother and a son, a girl and a boy dating, is there any differences? Align them with the relationship with the other and I tell you, the latter is love instead.

2. WHAT MAKES LOVE?
The thought of this alone sends me thinking over and over again. Not because I want to but because it makes me wonder. I have seen my friend behave in a different way on beginning to date a girl. His way of behaviour and thought changed from that moment. And now the question is this; what makes love? What is it that is in it that makes it virtually for everyone who truly is ‘in’ love to behave differently? Is there any substance at all in it? What is or are the compositions? Is it a substance and even if, thick or thin? What is it that actually comprises of it? Is there something in it and even if there is, what is it?

WHAT IS THE ORIGIN OF LOVE AT ALL?
1. Love may never get old but it is old. Sounds funny? Or better still the songs accrued from it? This originates from an area around the Tigris and Euphrates rivers, the earliest known written record of love songs were pressed into clay tablets and were written in praise of Sumerian gods and goddesses.

3. HOW DOES IS ALL START AND END?
Humans are able to judge the suitability of a potential partner in a very short amount of time, a matter of seconds even, according to researchers at Pennsylvania University. A study they carried out revealed that falling for someone when you first meet them is attributed to patterns in the brain that point to a direct link between facial attractiveness and positive traits. I sometimes do not see the connection between the start and the end. We begin to date and we see our relationship to be the best of all in the world and the next moment we think it is nothing after all. About the research made, that is love at first sight. But the interesting thing is that the break ups does not come so quick as the latter. It takes some time and later we voice it out.

4. DO WE REALLY FALL IN LOVE?
Why the words ‘fall’? Let us take a critical look at the word and some rationality here. If someone falls into something, it is often preceded with some sort of mayhem or bad circumstances. The word ‘fall’ denotes some degrading movements or actions that which has befallen you or on something. Here now, we are talking about love. Knowing full well that ‘love’ is something sweet and so touching to thinking of. But if we really fall in love, why then don’t we say that we have risen from love when we broke up? You will always here this ‘The love I have for him or she has faded or better still has died down.’ It surprises me when at different points in time we use the words we like depending on what we have found ourselves in. That is the fact. In my case, I would say we walk into love and when we’re done breaking up, it is walking out. Sounds funny right? If you walk yourself into something, you can either expect a good or bad thing. Nonetheless, if you are walking out, it may be for a good reason or a bad one.

5. IS THERE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TRUE LOVE AND LOVE?
A friend of mine saw a scene on a television. It was about a girl who left his parents in search of his lover after a swift misunderstanding. My friend looked at me and said ‘Dave, this is true love, she really loves him.’ I asked myself then if ever there is a false or ordinary love. In any case, let me tell you, some guys or ladies can fake love. Here it takes in depth analysis and knowledge for you to be able to detect it. I would understand you here if you tell me that that is not real love. It would surprise you that the lady or guy whom you are dating might have faked love. It is the main reason why you would have to be very sharp in movements in and out. The differences come in where this is done here and there, the other is not done. That is what brings out the ‘true’ love thing out. It all depends on the action exhibited.

6. HOW DO YOU TELL IF SOMEONE REALLY LOVES YOU?
This is one of the questions a colleague girl once asked me. Funny enough, it can be divided into two different perspectives. How can you tell if a girl loves you? What about a boy loving you, how can you figure it out? I would repeat it again; some people can fake love just as others can fake orgasm. Now a day, guys also do fake orgasm. Never mind let us comeback to track. To tell if someone really loves you or not, you need to be very particular about the actions and inactions of the individual. Know what the individual likes and don’t likes, line them up with the current actions that your guy or lady is doing. Don’t be too quick either to rush into conclusions or your partner’s behaviour as it may mean another thing. Since the bedrock of love is trust, whenever she blushes, it means that she can be trusted. It is just a tip anyway. When you are going to school, you learn educational materials, when at church, you listen and read the bible and now that you’ve walked into love, read love materials.

Wants more of such like this; just relax for surely its every Saturday Special on my blog. I will bring you dating tips and what needs doing in relationships. Get ready for anything sentimental, emotions and you inner being as a whole. It is this and every Saturday.
-Lin Collins